Well today I faced danger – not the life threatening kind of danger but the people disappointing or hurting kind.
Leave it to Facebook. Most of the time, for me at least, Facebook has been incredibly helpful in tracking down possible cousins. In fact several of my most rewarding finds of living relatives have been as a result of diligent searching on that site.
But a couple of days ago, I got a “Friend” request from someone I did not know and I had no clue why she requested a “friend” connection. And it wasn’t one that was obviously spam.
But I was reviewing my Facebook messages this morning – and lo and behold – there was a message from her. It was a short message, but in it she stated that one of my cousins was her father, and the father never married her mother, etc. etc. They apparently met at a nightclub and the rest was history.
Now the dilemma – If I was truly interested in logging in my database every person that had a known and substantial DNA relationship with myself and my family – I would respond to her, get the facts as she knows them – with dates and mother’s full name, etc.
But I am not going to do that. Why – because apparently she had tried to connect with her “father” and was denied the connection. Now my cousin is a fantastic fellow and not one to shirk his “duties” but apparently he does not wish to explore this connection and that is his right. I emailed my cousin, let him know of the attempted connection and left it at that.
So maybe – having every little detail isn’t so important.
What do you think? What would you do?